Only almost 3 days left from 2013.
I don’t know how was this year for you, all I know is that for me it felt like the most hectic year of my life – a crazy montagne russe with ups and downs, good and bad, light and dust, laughs and tears, life and dead, health and sickness, lots of people getting in or out of my life.
In two words – completely banana!
Sounds familiar? 🙂
Well, despite all these it was a great year for learning and grow, even sometimes I would’ve prefer an easier way to learn. Or less stressful! 🙂
The most important thing I take with me from 2013 is the conclusion that it’s all about the state. Your state!
State of mind, state of heart, call it as you want as long as you are fully conscious that you are the only architect of your state.
I know – nothing new!
You hear everywhere and everybody saying that you are what you think, you are the only master of yourself, and so on.
Here is the thing – you are not all those, and frankly I don’t think we need to be.
It’s much simpler – you are the only one who can build, piece by piece, your own state, positive or negative.
You can build by yourself the “I’m feeling good” or “I’m feeling bad”, “I am open to change” or “I am in control”, “I am curios” or “I know everything” states.
How can you build the right state for the right moment?
Piece of cake!!! And some very conscious work! 🙂
Let’s try a 20 seconds exercise.
Sit back, relax your body and feel how all the muscles of your face, your shoulders, your arms are relaxed.
Then think of a cloudy, rainy, windy, coooold day…
How are the muscles of your face? How does it feel your body, your shoulders?
And now shift, without any break, to thinking of a sunny, warm, lovely spring day …
How are the muscles of your face now? Your shoulders, your entire body? How do you feel now?
What just happened there? 🙂
You just builded two states – a “cloudy” one and a “sunny” one.
The “cloudy” states (like “I am not able to do / I feel bad / I don’t want / I don’t know / I know enough / I’m afraid / I’m scared, and so on) are the ones which keep our energy level down and because of the low level of energy we’re doing nothing, so the state remains “cloudy” and here we are caught into a bad/low mood perpetuum mobile.
It’s a matter of consciously building the right state for the moment we are in, either is a sunny one in a gloomy day, or the “no matter what is happening I can deal with” one, or an “open to all is new”, or my favorite “let’s see where this is going” one.
All you have to do is to find that moment when you’ve been at your best state, in a similar situation, and re-build that state.
And the greatest (and funniest 😉 ) part is that you can always add new things to these previous states, to make them best fit for the present moment.
Another state, I particularly came across this year, especially during the Presentation Skills and Public Speaking trainings I delivered – “I have nothing good to say” (which, most of the times, is coming tightly packed with “It’s easier to talk about others”).
I have to admit that seeing this state of mind in others is driving me crazy, because for many years I lived with it – I was always good in “selling” others then me.
I think this is the most disruptive state somebody can be in, as basically it doesn’t allow yourself to see and fully understand what are you good at and what you should improve.
In everything you do is something good! Even into the simple acts like breathing, walking, reading, talking on the phone, making sex, cooking, doing groceries for sure is something you do good.
Put yourself and your courage together and find those good things you do!!!
What is it good about the way you are doing it?
Is there any kind of pattern or some specific sequence?
Where else can you apply this patterns and get good results?
Can you apply these patterns to some skills you want to improve?
I don’t know if you read or saw “Gone with the wind”.
I did both few times, but only this year I fully understood that “Tomorrow is another day” said by Scarlet at the end
More than understanding it, I discovered that it isn’t necessary to wait for tomorrow or for a better mindset to happen – YOU can build it!!!
But only if you want to be in better state! 😉
Have a great New Year’s Eve and all the appropriate states in 2014! 🙂
Happy New Year, ppl! 🙂 :*